Loving Wives are not Doormats

[aricadavidson]

I really liked this article, as I've been berated for taking care of my husband before.

Loving Wives are not Doormats

Comments

[iwerewolf.livejournal.com]

there's a difference between taking care of your husband and him equally reciprocating vs being a slave, where the man expects you to treat him like a king and you are to shut up, cook, clean for him/after him and be available whenever he wants to have sex. Never having a life outside the house, etc.

I see the latter in middle eastern homes a lot, actually it's the norm. I will probably struggle with the former once I finally get married. I did take care of my ex, but I think he took care of me just as much, if not more. Actually I know he took care of me just as much.

[aricadavidson.livejournal.com]

My husband has done so much to take care of me and yet when I want to reciprocate I've been fussed at by friends of mine and accused of not having my own mind.

Trust me, if I didn't have a mind of my own, my husband never would have married me. lol

[iwerewolf.livejournal.com]

lol

you know it's funny, my ex used to treat me like a queen (clearly this was long before the break up), he'd do so much for me. There was once when we were sitting on the couch, watching a movie and eating. I got up to get a refill and he asked me to bring him something. I had to stop myself from getting mad. Obviously I had a life long expereince of being treated as a slave, or at least raised to think I was one since I'm a middle eastern woman, and well, how dare we be respected. I stopped myself from saying something and got it for him.

I told my friend about it and if she could have reached through the phone and slapped me, she would have. Because yeah, I got miffed at him asking, but she reminded me that he does so much for me, his request was nothing.

but again, it goes back to being treated like a slave.